Spice For Spouse

What is a Home?

A missionary couple had their eldest son who was very small traveling with them from town to town as they pioneered different churches and held many campaigns. A lady said to them, “How sad you do not have a settled home.” He replied very indignantly, “We have a home, but not a house to fit into”. He knew that where there was love, there was home. Home is not bricks and mortar, material possessions and electronic gadgets - but a unity, a peace, a love and a security!

There’s a decalogue framed for those who are married or who are contemplating it which I think could prevent at least 90% of the marital smash-ups.

Here are the rules of a successful marriage:-

1. Bear and Forbear.

2. Work together, play together and grow together.

3. Avoid the little quarrels and the big ones will take care of themselves.

4. Compromise (give and take). It is the antitoxin of divorce.

5. Practice sympathy, good humor and mutual understanding.

6. Don’t grumble before breakfast or after it.

7. Respect your in-laws but don’t criticize them or take criticism from them.

8. Establish your own home, even in a one-room flat.

9. Fight for each other, but not with each other.

10. Build your home on religious faith, with love and forgiveness as the watch word.

11. Pray together and discuss the Word of God together.

12. Appreciate each other, but never condemn or criticize each other.

A happy home is an early heaven! A true home is built on God’s love and power, and solid statistics support this. May we make Christ the center of our homes and build them to the glory of God. The old adage is still true - 

"THE FAMILY THAT PRAYS TOGETHER STAYS TOGETHER"

"MARRIAGE IS NOT A TEMPORARY CONTRACT; IT'S A BINDING COVENANT FOR LIFE"