Spice For Spouse

The 10 commandments for every married couple

I. Thou shall keep the priorities in order.

(1.God, 2. family, 3. job, and 4. friends. If your priorities are right, your progress would be steady.  Keep the priorities in the right order.

II. Thou shall have family prayer every evening and eat at least one meal a day together.

Make both an enjoyable time. Think of good ways to make the food and prayer time not just a routine affair but quite different, at least once in a while.

III. Thou shall spend enough time with your spouse and plenty of time with your kids.

Play together, go for a walk, picnic together and say jokes and laugh. Give each other memories as though each week is the last week you are going to live. Give each one enough time.

IV. Thou shall love and trust your partner as thyself.

Do you doubt the character of your partner? If this gnawing suspicion is increasing as the days go by, do not hesitate to go to a Christian Counsellor at the earliest.

V. Thou shall NOT ever talk about divorce.

Remove that word from your vocabulary.  Your deceiving heart would sometime say, 'this marriage was a mistake.' But don't meditate about it. Don't ever utter it.  Fill up that devastating thoughts with hopeful words and wonderful Bible promises.

VI. Thou shall NOT dig the past that stinks or pains.

Don't dig into the past affairs of your spouse whether it is about the life before or after marriage. Look forward and talk of faith, hope and love.

VII. Thou shall save for the future, so your future will be secure.

Men are more carefree or careless to think about the future. He feels that everything will be all right and bright. But the woman and the children feel happy and secure when they know there is something tangible for the future.

VIII. Thou shall not criticize, but admire each other.

You can correct. But remember the ratio 1:5. One criticism sandwiched with 2 + 2 or more encouragements and praises are always healthy.

IX. Thou shall do all to enhance your marriage.

Read a book on marriage and or family life often.  You can attend a seminar on marriage whenever possible.

X. Treasure your children.

Treasure them, protect them, cherish them, take care of them, live for them, love them, give them faith in GOD and invest in them.